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The Art of Love - 8

Don’t Feel Embarrassed - You Deserve to be In Love

There are times when you have to pluck up, to break down, to throw down, to destroy, and to afflict in order to reach a point where you can build and to plant (Jeremiah 31:28). The earlier you begin to understand and apply this mystery, the more empowered you can walk in the complete freedom of love. There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love (1 John 4:18).

This means that any time you fear to express the real you, it is wrapped up in a torment called “embarrassment”, a feeling of lack of confidence, or shame, in the beautiful person God created you to be. Pluck it up, that embarrassment, from its roots, dearly beloved, right now by shouting, “I am outstanding and wonderfully made!” You were Created by an omniscient, omnipotent, and loving Father. What a perfect masterpiece you are!

Stop hiding behind that wall of insecurity and get out there shining your light! Break down the barrage of words attacking your soul to despair with a smile as bright as the Son of God as He’s building you up in His most gorgeous image. Do not fear to dream big and to pursue those dreams. Do not stop in your walk along this path called life with Christ. And, if you want to get to know who Christ really is, throw down human intellect, stop talking with unbelievers, and find a Christian brother or sister, mother or father who is willing to share His agape love with you.


It's time to destroy the helplessness you feel sometimes, and focus on becoming the best you can be right where you are now. Are you a student? Get into the habit of studying and asking questions so that the information becomes easy to comprehend. Are you a worker? Build up your skills to prove yourself knowledgeable and indispensable in the workplace. Are you an entrepreneur operating your own business? Do not be afraid to go into unchartered waters to plant the seeds of your vision. Sometimes it takes a new road, a unique way of doing things, to reach your destiny. Stop treading down old and beaten paths and explore new ideas “out of the box”. People may not understand you, but you got what it takes to make your dream your reality, which in turn will bless and help those around you. Get excited!


What you also have to destroy is the yearning of the flesh. You must flee from all that is unholy, anything or anyone that is ungodly or immoral. Your body, your soul (thoughts/feelings), your spirit must be at its purest state for God’s power to flow and work in you. To afflict the body means to fast at times and to pray with supplication always that fornication, fear, and frustration do not overtake you.

Stress is always placed on fornication because it is a sin to your body; and your body was meant for housing God’s Holy Spirit as you were made in His image (1 Corinthians 3:16-17). Where else can He dwell but in you? On earth, we take on a body of flesh because earth is physical. But our soul and spirit live inside that flesh. Your soul is your will power, and whatever thoughts come from there, they are driven by a higher power, either the Holy Spirit or the spirit of the evil one. The evil one also sows seeds of fornication in young bodies especially as puberty and the changes of adolescence are quickened inside your endocrine body system.


Sex is a natural act ordained by God in the institution of marriage. Period. The devil tempts you to think otherwise, so that you disobey this biblical truth (1 Corinthians 3:18). Fornication comes in its varieties, but its root lies in having sex either with yourself or with others outside of marriage, where the sacred covenant of marital unity doesn’t exist. This also includes adultery—the breaking of the marriage covenant, or promise, to be faithful and loyal to a spouse. Can you marry yourself? Then masturbation is a NO. God’s law says NO to any binding of souls except that of a man and a woman, male and female. It’s not that we of this age don’t understand this biblical truth. It’s clear that Satan propounds his temptation for disobedience (Ephesians 2:2) that leads to a lifetime of fear and frustration (John 10:10a).


To have affection for the same sex cloaks you in a world of darkness. It’s a choice you’re making to act on the desires of the flesh. How else would you know that this is what you like unless you’ve tried it (either imagined or in actual full blown intercourse), and it gave you some kind of “feeling”? That feeling is called lust- a thirst to satisfy the body’s appetite for sex. Question is, “Do you have to act on it?” Or can you find a mature and loving Christian to help you understand what you are feeling and show you how to overcome the temptation to submit to the spirit of lust (1 Corinthians 10:13)? This is for every body. The affection we may have for any other person must be checked against the will of God before we act on it. If God says NO, then move away quickly and abstain. There is a life full of joy (followed by good success) for those who walk in the will of God.


Your destiny is great, but you must prepare for it. You must have a strategy, a plan, for reaching and achieving your highest potential. The first strategy you must activate is to build up the inner you, your sense of self-worth and to plant the seed (the thought) into you sub-conscious-way deep down in your heart (your soul) that, “I DESERVE TO BE LOVED.” Move from that special place toward building up a plan for achievement—ways for accomplishing your life-dream. It is yours, your dream, your heart’s desire; it belongs to you, and must be nurtured (fed and cared for) by you.

“Always be a first-rate version of yourself instead of a second-rate version of somebody else”1. In other words, you are the original. Stop being a photocopy of what others expect you to be. Don’t just speak it. Live it. The real you embodies the innocence of a child who is amazed by all the beauty God created in our natural environment; who is awed into silence at the bigness of our God of the universe, and who runs to celebrate everything that showers the soul in the joy of purity.


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1. A quote from Judy Garland, American actress who struggled to be herself in the film industry, an environment of constant criticism to be a second-rate version of someone else. (

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